What’s up my beautiful people? This week I was in training and the question came up about how do clients self-soothe. Some therapist responded that some people use drugs, fighting, act out sexually, and so on. Since a lot of the answers were unhealthy and depressing, I responded that some clients that I’ve encounter use music, art, and exercise to self soothe. If we all took time to evaluate how we self soothe (which simply means to relax or calm down), we all may have unhealthy as well healthy ways we soothe ourselves.
For me personally, I realized that there were times where I would not take time to relax and calm down. I noticed that I would eat more fast food or not get enough rest. And when I did not take time for myself, I felt it and saw it. Over the years, I have learned and practice ways to self soothe. It is so important to make time for yourself so that you can be your best at work, at home, in your relationships, and most importantly for yourself. I would like to share some activities that do to self soothe.
1. Exercise or physical activity. Yes, enjoy being active. Sometimes I hit the gym and do some cardio. I usually switch between the treadmill, bike, or elliptical to add some variety. Sometimes I take short walks or use the stairs. If I don’t feel like “working out,” I go to YouTube check out some videos and dance until I break out into a sweat. I also like zumba and other activities.
2. Art. I find that art is very relaxing. A few years ago, I got into painting canvas with acrylic paint. I love it. I also enjoy sewing and knitting.
3. Music. Music is truly a form of therapy. It is able to evoke emotions and it truly affects your soul. I don’t know if you ever heard a song about heartbreak or sadness…you feel it or it reminds you of your personal experiences. I find that jazz with the music only is relaxing. Also, I listen to music that is inspirational and up lifting.
4. Writing. I find that writing my thoughts and feelings helps me to release them. There are instances where I don’t want to talk about something so I write it out. I write poems, stories, and songs. It just depends on whats going on in my life. There have been times where I may have had to deal with someone who may have offended me or I had a disagreement with. I actually have written how about the experience…feelings, thoughts, and vent. This helps me process the situation. After I write about it, it helps to effectively communicate with that individual when I encounter them.
5.Other things. This list could go on. So, here are some other things that I like to do to self soothe: read, take hot baths (with my oils, salts, and scrubs), laugh (I have invested in comedy dvds and I have learned to find humor in the not so humorous thing;-) It helps), pampering myself (painting my nails, doing my hair, shopping, etc.), BREATHE (it works), being around positive and supportive people who I can talk to, and most importantly my faith in God truly sustains me!
Enjoy and don’t forget to spend more time self soothing and discovering new ways to self-soothe! Make it simple and enjoyable!