Hey my beautiful people! I pray that 2013 is continuing to bring you much joy and fulfillment, if not, it will happen;-) It feels as if time has been flying. I have been so busy with work, school, and life so I am writing you to “self-soothe” and share some things that have been on my heart. Do you remember that I wrote that I will not be participating in New Year’s resolutions? I am still holding firm to that. The whole concept of a resolution is great, but there is a challenge to follow through with it. There is research to show that about 80% of resolutions fail…
As a therapist, I believe in setting goals for myself and my clients. To me, goals provide direction and it shows progress as well as. It is very important that goal are realistic and achievable. This post is not about goal setting…so, let me get to the point.
Goals are absolutely great! However, it is important to understand why you do what you do. I have been making changes in my life…this nothing new…yet, I am making changes none the less. This year I have made a conscious effort to remain centered as a women. And the best way for me to stay centered is to be close to my Creator. What I have found is that the more I communicate and fellowship with God, the more I understand who I am as a woman, my purpose for life, and the direction that I should go. I realize how God is a necessity in my life.
So maybe you’re wondering, how am I making changes? Thanks for asking…lol. I am making changes in my thinking which has effected my behaviors. For example, I have been really conscious about my health. I have had so many issues in regards to asthma and medications. The medications have affected my physical health and not to mention my weight. At several points over the years, I have been frustrated and discouraged about all of the changes that have occurred. I accepted that my weight may fluctuate 20,30, 50 pounds at a time. I love myself and possess a healthy dose of self-esteem, yet I was not happy with my health. Through more quiet alone time with my beautiful Creator, I no longer see issues with my asthma and weight as “struggles”. When I considered those issues as a struggle…I was really struggling against myself. I refuse to fight myself. Now, I call my them “motivations”. I am motivated to love myself even more. I exercise 4-6 times a week because I enjoy it and I love my temple. I have made the decision to eat even more healthy and I have almost eliminated meat out of my diet which has given me more energy.
I deactivated my Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram accounts. I started to feel overwhelmed with the social media outlets. Don’t get me wrong social media is a great way to connect with family and friends. I found it to be time-consuming and burdensome. I saw very depressing and disturbing things. I actually had people upset if I denied a friend request or if I failed to respond to message in a timely manner…yes! People are taking social media too serious. I am not suggesting that anyone delete or remove their accounts…but it would not hurt to take a break. It is healthy to have more face-to-face interaction.
I have no goals or set schedule. I am just making changes as they come. The changes I have made are becoming my apart of my life. I have eliminated a lot of distractions and I’m see the health improve. Making good changes are not always easy, however the benefits are great. I want to encourage you to be mindful of your choices in regards to your health, your relationships, and your life. Think about what you’re doing and why? Will your decisions leave you in a healthier place or unhealthy place? You are in my prayers;-)