If you where to ask your family, friends, or co-workers to describe your character, what would they say, honestly? Think about that. It’s not so much about what people think but rather the impression that you give. No matter who you are, we all leave an impression. So actually a few months ago, I asked some people that I’m close to about the impression I have had on them. Mind you when it comes to character I am not one to sugar coat the truth so I asked them to be REAL. So, I sent out a few text messages to co-workers, friends, and family. So, I waited for responses…What I received was very humbling and encouraging.
I think, it is essential to have a “checks and balances” system with a few people in your life so that you maintain integrity and good character. Let me be clear, this is not about finding validation and definition of yourself through others. But rather, having a close person or people who know you well enough to be honest and transparent about your strengths and areas of improvement. They also should have the ability to communicate to you constructively.
Also, it is vital to be aware of yourself. Are you fair and just when you deal with people? Have you been called arrogant or condescending? Do you notice that you don’t get the respect that you deserve in close relationships? On and on…
The reason I am addressing this issue is because I’ve seen too many people who have an unhealthy checks and balances system. Some people are so close-minded that they believe that all is well and that they have arrived to their highest level. Some people are not accepting of the help provided in key relationships. I have even seen people who are extremely opinionated and critical of others get offended when their character is being addressed to them.
People, it is so important to check ourselves. Let’s be aware of our motives, values, and character. Allow positive relationships to enhance us stronger and healthier individuals
I’m ending this post with a very popular quote. “Check yourself before you wreck yourself.”
With much love~Brandi ♥