2018

 

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Hello, beautiful people and Happy New Year!

I can’t believe it’s 2018 already.  To be completely honest, I am glad that 2017 is over.  What a year?  I literally isolated myself, especially from social media, as much as possible to recuperate from the highs and mostly lows of a year that literally has left me using punctuation marks to describe my life.

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If you’ve ever watched the movie Monster-in-Law with Jennifer Lopez and Jane Fonda, there’s a scene where the ladies meet for the first time and chat over tea.  During the conversation, Jane Fonda’s character reaches for the question mark necklace around J Lo’s neck and ask, “Why the question mark?”.  Jennifer responds candidly and freely with a bright smile “Oooh, ’cause I just don’t know?” ended with a carefree laugh.  I swear this is one of my favorite scenes of the movie.  I love Jennifer’s character, Charlie, and I connect with her so much.  She had different jobs and ventures going on at the same time while trying makes sense of it all and embracing the changes as they come.  Charlie went to the beat of her own drum without any apologies.

 Life is full of situations and experiences that are interesting, frustrating, challenging, fun, exhilarating, along with so many other adjectives.  Last year, I struggled with the not knowing and trying to figure it out.  I felt a lot of internal and external conflict because I realized that I lost myself.   I lost “beating the rhythm to my own drum.”  I missed the relationship I had with myself.  I stopped feeding my soul and continued taking on obligations that were depleting me.  I felt like I was suffocating and my body and spirit were suffering because of my unhappiness and discouragement.

 I stopped making my happiness and peace the priority.   So I decided before I go into to 2018, I need to make a change.  THERAPY.  If you’re new to my blog, I am a marriage and family therapist, and I am a believer and supporter of psychotherapy.  There’s this negative stigma associated with counseling and therapy, but there are really great therapists out here who know what they are doing and genuinely care.   Don’t get me wrong, there are some people out there who should not be practicing.  But there are doctors, hairstylists, teachers, spiritual advisors and so on who are really whack yet they are still working.  If someone sucks at what they do find someone who knows what they are doing.

Okay, I’m off my therapy soapbox.  Anyway, therapy has been great, challenging, and needed.  I actually feel like I can breathe again.  I am looking forward to getting back to Brandi.  I must say that it feels great getting back to the blog as well.  I have missed being here and thanks to you who are still hanging out with me!

I look forward to blogging with you this 2018.

Brandi

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Girl on the Go 

Hey, everyone!
A couple of weeks ago, I wrote a post about some life changes and transitioning from my career path as a crisis counselor.  I recently began working  in the science industry as a chemist.  I must say that I am really excited about the change and the future.

Some of you may not have known, but my first career job after graduating college was in the science field.  I  was a cosmetic chemist for a brief time while I was in grad school.  And it was the best working  experience ever.

Here’s one of my outfits that I wore to work. 



So, you may be wondering about my work as a therapist.  I have started  speaking.   My goal was to do classes, seminars, and along with other speaking platforms to empower others once I became a therapist. 

My dreams are now a reality thanks to faith, timing, and my support system. God is good. I will share more as time progresses. Until then, fill your mind with positive things ♡


XOXO Brandi ♡♡♡

Momma

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Newborn Brandi and Mom

Hello  blogosphere!

Happy Mother’s Day to all of you who have been privileged to be mothers! I want to dedicate this post to my mom.

I am beyond blessed to have a mother who has taken pride in raising me.  She has never made me feel like I was burden or an inconvenience.  She has made so many sacrifices and investments in my life, my sister’s life, and so many other surrogate children lives.  My mom waited to except any adminstrative jobs in her career until we were grown so that she could raise us and nurture us. She taught me the importance of honoring God and being a women of integrity.  She showed us how to treat people kindly and pray for them even when they were unkind and negative.  I have been blessed to be raised by a woman who does not gossip and who is not messy.  I am grateful that she continues to shine her light daily in the lives of hundreds of children.  I am truly blessed.

As I reflect on my life, I am grateful that my mom taught my sister how to be women with character, grace, and wisdom.  I hope that one day I will be able share what she has given me.

She speaks wise words and teaches others to be kind.
Proverbs 31:26 NCV

With love,

Brandi