Closest Chic: Rocking Tutu

Closet Chic, DIY

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Hello everyone!

On last Thursday, I was apart of a production for the school where I sub at.  It was so fun to sing and dance for the kiddos.  I had to share my outfit.  I had to have big hair and bright colors.

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I wore my smile graphics tee with a tulle skirt that I made a while back.  I wore some sneakers with neon shoelaces.  I made the wig that I wore.

Jessica also rocked her tulle skirt that she made a while back. She was channeling a little bit of disco.
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New Fabrics, New Ideas

DIY

Hey lovelies!

I have been focusing my energy on sewing.  It’s one of my favorite hobbies.  To me it’s more than a hobby, but like an escape.  It’s therapy to me.  I recently have gotten some really cool fabrics that I want to play around with.

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I have updated some of my sewing tool.

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I started having issues with my upper threading popping a few days ago. I did a thorough cleaning and oiling to my machine to keep it functioning correctly.  I have done and tried everything…so I will have to get my machine professionally serviced.  So, I will be sewing by hand which should be fun. I made a few garments that I will share later.

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I am currently working with this fabric.  I like sneakers and I had an idea about what I want to do.

Sending positivity your way!
Brandi

Jealousy Part 1: Why is She Always Hating?

Inspiration, Love and Relationship

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What’s up my beautiful people? I have been doing a lot of thinking about the issues of self-esteem with women.  I am all about seeing women being empowered by embracing and loving themselves.  I find that the topic of being empowered so necessary when it comes to addressing women’s issues.  An issue that is major among us women is jealousy.  The street term is better known as hating or hatin’.

One thing that  frustrates yet saddens me  is when I encounter women who deflects their issues and insecurities onto another woman.  I have personally witnessed this problem countless times.  And this issue is so apparent in the media especially on reality TV.   It is painful to see women find pleasure tearing another woman down.  It’s sickening to see all of the drama.  This problem goes beyond the television and is present in the our relationships with each other.

So here my attempt at addressing “Why is she always hating?”

First, let me give a few definitions of JEALOUSLY :

The Urban dictionary defines jealousy as:

  • The feeling of wanting something someone else has.
  • The feeling of being angry at someone because they are better off then you or they have what you want.
  • The real or perceived threat of the loss of a valued relationship to a rival.

Here are a few from the Freedictionary.com:

  • resentful and envious, as of someone’s success, advantages, etc.
  • proceeding from suspicious fears or envious resentment

Okay, so let me first say that at some point we all have experienced jealousy. Feeling jealous is a normal human feeling (emotion). However, it is important on how you direct it.  I read this quote by Dr. David Matsumoto:

“Emotions color our worlds and give our world meaning.  And we wouldn’t be able to know whether we need to attack, or run away, to hold somebody, or to stand afar. Emotions tell us what to do. And emotions give everything in our lives meaning.”

It is important to know why you are feeling that way which I will address later. Jealousy untreated is unhealthy.  Untreated jealousy is expressed by gossip, verbal and physical aggression, nasty attitudes, back-stabbing, bullying, murder, and even suicide.  I am almost sure that you could add more behaviors to this list.  In order to treat or deal with jealously and hatred, we must deal with it at the root.  The root begins with you…within your “self”.

So, I mentioned the quote about emotions. Your emotions let you know that something is there or not right. In case of jealousy, it may be an indicator that you’re not happy with where your are in life or you wished you looked better or felt better. You may have lacked validation about how amazing you are. I am concerned when a woman is in a constant state of jealousy or hatred because she is negative, unhappy, and insecure. Some hide behind fabulous clothes and makeup. Some are bullies or mean. Some are quiet and beat themselves up. Some compare themselves to others all the time. No matter how it’s expressed it’s all unhealthy.

My goal is to address ways in which we can began to find healing and acceptance of our imperfections.  We as women have so many issues that we have to tackle everyday.  Sometimes, past decisions or choices haunt us it is important that we address it and move forward.

So what are your thoughts on  jealousy that plagues us at some point?

Be on the look out for the part 2 of this series. I will tackling ways of dealing with chronic jealousy and hate among women.

Until then, stay lovely!
Brandi

Reference:

Urban Dictionary  http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=jealousy

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