Blog Update: Life, Adjusting and Changing (The Extended Version)

Healthy Living, Inspiration, Let's Talk...Therapy

Hey everyone!  I have been away from blogging over the past few weeks because I have been recovering from the flu and upper and lower respiratory infections.  I am excited about blogging but honestly I have not been able to do what I have desired to do so with blogging.  So please bear with me with this post.

I am super excited to let you know that my sister, Jessica, will be joining me on this blog.  So please show her some love!  We will sharing our experiences and projects we will be working on.  She has a lot of great things to share and I am super-duper excited about merging with Jess.  Be on the look out:-)

 

 

So, I just wanted to catch you up on what’s been going on with me. I have been feeling disconnected with blogging due to life circumstances.

A lot has been transpired over the past two years. I’ve experienced so many emotions–sadness, happiness, nervousness, excitement, uncertainty…I lost my grandmother in April  2013 which was absolutely devastating.  It was difficult and painful to see someone who I have share so many special moments with and known all of my life pass away right before my eyes. I stayed with her during her first health scare.  I was present when she stopped breathing and was pronounced dead with my family. She was lively, feisty, and most of all giving.  I knew her health was declining, but I never expected for her leave so soon.  I’m allowing myself to grieve.

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In the summer of 2013, I moved  from west Tennessee to the Washington DC area then back to middle Tennessee that fall. I moved back to my hometown in West Tennessee back in the summer of 2014. The moving was exhausting…on so many levels.  I am finally still.

In April of 2014, I lost my dog.  She went blind on the day my grandmother died and experienced some major illnesses that involved me giving her fluids through an IV.  I did a lot to preserve her life and health.  She went lame two months due to health complications. She died year later on the day my grandmother was buried. This seems so unreal.  I am still grieving and I know that it will take time. I never knew that having a pet could change your life in such a positive way.

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Another change that has occurred is that I am back in school working on my doctorate.  I finally took a leap to begin the process of getting my PhD which is dream of mine.  I had a lot of reservations about going back to school, but I knew it was time.  With support and much prayer, I have gotten A’s and one B in all of my classes.  Thank God!  It definitely hasn’t been easy working full-time as a therapist and having busy schedule.

I could go on and on about what’s been going on.

I took a break and I am still on a break from working as a therapist because I have had some really poor work environments.  I really enjoy counseling but I have worked with co-workers who are unhappy and negative.  It is hard to be apart of teams that do not genuinely care for people and who are unprofessional.  I did not go to school to become a marriage and family therapist to be in unproductive environments.

Back in December, Jessica’s dog passed away four days before Christmas.  I called Jazzy my niece. It’s crazy how my sister got our dogs eight months apart and they died eight months apart.  We miss her a lot because she helped us cope with my dog’s death and now she’s gone.

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My body, mind, and spirit have suffered tremendously do to all of the changes in my life. With all of the major life changes that have occurred, I needed a little time to have some fun and enjoy myself.  So, I have been directing my energy towards thing that make me happy. That means I have been doing a lot of self-soothing.  I will be sharing with you all the things that are helping me.  I am getting refocused and re-centered.  We all go through major life changes.  It is so important that we take time to stay as balanced and healthy as we can.

I want to thank everyone who has subscribed, read, or liked something that I have shared on my blog.  I appreciate it!  Be on the look out for more great things!

With love,

Brandi 😉

 

7 Days of Thankfulness Part 2

Inspiration

There are so many things that I am thankful for. Over the past week, I have been able to reflect and I wanted to share.
1. Life
I am so grateful to be alive. There have been times where I’ve consumed with living and surviving, that I forget to breathe and realize that I am alive and well. I realize that each day is a gift and thank God for that.

2. Parents
The older I get, the more I love my parents. I am thankful for their support and love. Every day has not been perfect and our relationship is not perfect…but it is healthy. I am thankful to have been raised by people who love serving others and who are authentically caring. When challenges and conflict happens we listen and respect each other. I am so extremely grateful.

3. Sister
My sister is my very best friend, companion, my ace. I can be myself with her. Everyone should have one person who you can be completely transparent and open with without fear of judgment or rejection. She accepts, me as I am with all of my quirks, ideas, feelings, stubbornness, eccentricities, and so on. I am grateful for the rare bond that we share.

I wanted to share what I am thankful for! I hope that this Thanksgiving is full of love and delicious food!

Thanks for reading!
Brandi

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Check Yourself Part 1

Inspiration, Let's Talk...Therapy, Love and Relationship

If you where to ask your family, friends, or co-workers to describe your character, what would they say, honestly?  Think about that.  It’s not so much about what people think but rather the impression that you give.  No matter who you are, we all leave an impression​.  So actually a few months ago, I asked some people that I’m close to about the impression I have had on them. Mind you when it comes to character I am not one to sugar coat the truth so I asked them to be REAL.  So, I sent out a few text messages to co-workers, friends, and family. So, I waited for responses…What I received was very humbling and encouraging.

I think, it is essential to have a “checks and balances” system with a few people in your life so that you maintain integrity and good character. Let me be clear, this is not about finding validation and definition of yourself through others. But rather, having a close person or people who know you well enough to be honest and transparent about your strengths and areas of improvement. They also should have the ability to communicate to you constructively.

Also, it is vital to be aware of yourself. Are you fair and just when you deal with people? Have you been called arrogant or condescending? Do you notice that you don’t get the respect that you deserve in close relationships? On and on…

The reason I am addressing this issue is because I’ve seen too many people who have an unhealthy checks and balances system. Some people are so close-minded that they believe that all is well and that they have arrived to their highest level. Some people are not accepting of the help provided in key relationships. I have even seen people who are extremely opinionated and critical of others get offended when their character is being addressed to them.

People, it is so important to check ourselves. Let’s be aware of our motives, values, and character. Allow positive relationships to enhance us stronger and healthier individuals

I’m ending this post with a very popular quote. “Check yourself before you wreck yourself.”

With much love~Brandi ♥

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