Recommended Read: Who Moved My Cheese?

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I am excited about sharing this new book I read about a week or so ago.  My mom gave it to me to read around the holidays, but I put off reading it until recently.  Let me say, I really enjoyed reading this book. The book is thin and the words were simple. The messages were simple.   I got done with it in a few hours.    Based on my research, major corporations and companies use the simple but valuable words of this book to shift their environments into ones of productivity and growth for employees and the company.

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I won’t go into full on book review but the message is simple. Prepare for change.  Expect change.  Welcome change. Don’t allow fear to cripple you from stepping out of your current situation or comfort zone  to see and explore what amazing things life has in store. This book allows you to identify where you are based on the characters and yet the author does an amazing job showing how we can change. Also, the author paints a picture of how we can sabotage our lives if we fail to take a look at ourselves and our circumstances and choose to do better and be better. There are so many messages to receive from this book. I understand why it’s a best seller.

I would recommend this book period. As a therapist, I would give this book to clients who feel stuck in life and need a change. Sometimes we all need a little boost or recharge. I think this great for long-term and married couples to read as a unit. I think that parents can share this with pre-teens and teens as a life preparation tool. During that time of life, they are beginning to explore and make sense of life.  This book is great for book clubs and group.  There is a lot of topics from this book that creates positive dialog and discussions.

If anyone has read this book, what do you think? Thanks momma for recommending this book!

Inspired,

Brandi

Vision Board: Getting Re-Centered and Refocused

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Hey Everyone!
I’m at a place in my life where I am getting re-centered and refocused on my desires and goals for myself. I am taking time to allow myself to be restored and refreshed. I have a tendency to be super hard on myself and I have been guilty of pushing myself to the limit. I think that it is okay to have drive and determination but it is not healthy when you over do it.

So, I’m taking it easy as much as possible and focusing on my life and my purpose. I surround myself with things and images that remind me of my passions, desires, and goals. I believe visualizing where you want to be and what you want to be provides with some direction and inspiration. It has been very helpful in my life. I love writing down the things I desire and having them visual. It has been amazing.

I created a vision board, well more like three about those things that I expect to see manifested in my life. If you’ve never heard of a vision board, I will explain it. It kind of like a picture collage that has pictures of your desires, dreams and goals. It can be elaborate or simple. It’s your vision. You can make it using poster board or electronically like the ones I created. I made my vision boards using my piccollage app. It’s free and easy to use. I downloaded pictures from the internet and create boards for my life.

Here’s one for my personal wellbeing:

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Love Relationship:

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Career

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These are my screen savers. I bought some poster board to create a vision board in my home. I will be cutting pictures from my magazines. My sister with also be doing one. This is great project to do when you feel stuck or are ready for a change. This also great for children and teens. I will do follow up post about my vision board. I encourage you to try it and don’t be fearful of thinking big. It’s yours life;-)

Sending much positivity,
Brandi

Jealousy Part 1: Why is She Always Hating?

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What’s up my beautiful people? I have been doing a lot of thinking about the issues of self-esteem with women.  I am all about seeing women being empowered by embracing and loving themselves.  I find that the topic of being empowered so necessary when it comes to addressing women’s issues.  An issue that is major among us women is jealousy.  The street term is better known as hating or hatin’.

One thing that  frustrates yet saddens me  is when I encounter women who deflects their issues and insecurities onto another woman.  I have personally witnessed this problem countless times.  And this issue is so apparent in the media especially on reality TV.   It is painful to see women find pleasure tearing another woman down.  It’s sickening to see all of the drama.  This problem goes beyond the television and is present in the our relationships with each other.

So here my attempt at addressing “Why is she always hating?”

First, let me give a few definitions of JEALOUSLY :

The Urban dictionary defines jealousy as:

  • The feeling of wanting something someone else has.
  • The feeling of being angry at someone because they are better off then you or they have what you want.
  • The real or perceived threat of the loss of a valued relationship to a rival.

Here are a few from the Freedictionary.com:

  • resentful and envious, as of someone’s success, advantages, etc.
  • proceeding from suspicious fears or envious resentment

Okay, so let me first say that at some point we all have experienced jealousy. Feeling jealous is a normal human feeling (emotion). However, it is important on how you direct it.  I read this quote by Dr. David Matsumoto:

“Emotions color our worlds and give our world meaning.  And we wouldn’t be able to know whether we need to attack, or run away, to hold somebody, or to stand afar. Emotions tell us what to do. And emotions give everything in our lives meaning.”

It is important to know why you are feeling that way which I will address later. Jealousy untreated is unhealthy.  Untreated jealousy is expressed by gossip, verbal and physical aggression, nasty attitudes, back-stabbing, bullying, murder, and even suicide.  I am almost sure that you could add more behaviors to this list.  In order to treat or deal with jealously and hatred, we must deal with it at the root.  The root begins with you…within your “self”.

So, I mentioned the quote about emotions. Your emotions let you know that something is there or not right. In case of jealousy, it may be an indicator that you’re not happy with where your are in life or you wished you looked better or felt better. You may have lacked validation about how amazing you are. I am concerned when a woman is in a constant state of jealousy or hatred because she is negative, unhappy, and insecure. Some hide behind fabulous clothes and makeup. Some are bullies or mean. Some are quiet and beat themselves up. Some compare themselves to others all the time. No matter how it’s expressed it’s all unhealthy.

My goal is to address ways in which we can began to find healing and acceptance of our imperfections.  We as women have so many issues that we have to tackle everyday.  Sometimes, past decisions or choices haunt us it is important that we address it and move forward.

So what are your thoughts on  jealousy that plagues us at some point?

Be on the look out for the part 2 of this series. I will tackling ways of dealing with chronic jealousy and hate among women.

Until then, stay lovely!
Brandi

Reference:

Urban Dictionary  http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=jealousy

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A Dose of Inspiration: Stand Out!

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I have accepted the fact that I am different and it works for me.  I wasn’t created to be someone else…nor do I care to be someone else.  It is okay to stand out.  The only obligation that you should have is to be yourself.  Be free…stand out!

Peace and Love,
B

A Fresh Start

Happy Sunday beautiful people! Today has been a really chill day.  I have spent the last few weeks of 2014 getting my house in order literally and figuratively.  Since moving back into my home last year. I made changes on the inside and outside.  A fresh start.  Painting and repairing.   During that time, changes were going with me inside and out.  I’m starting this new year 16 pounds lighter.  My skin is clearer.  My heart is lighter.  My spirit is at peace.  I will share later about my process. 

Today, I’m in my creative room repairing clothes listening to “Nothing Even Matters” by Lauren Hill.  I’m taking this time to relax and enjoy this moment sewing and listening to music.   I’m making time to just relax. 

Take time to relax and enjoy things that make you happy!

Much love,
Brandi

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