Burnout & Venting


Good day, beautiful people!

I really miss blogging. And I want to take a moment to be transparent and vent. My life as a crisis counselor has pretty much dominated my life.  Over the past few months, there has been a spike in the number of children going into crisis.  I literally feel pushed to the max.  Outside of the piles of paperwork and the countless hours of driving to a crisis, I have the responsibility of making serious decisions about what is  best course of action to help the child and their family.

It’s difficult explain to parents that their child needs to go to a psychiatric hospital to be evaluated. I hear and see so many heartbreaking and disturbing things that I have nightmares about them. I have encountered negative and sometimes unethical helping professionals who give those of us who do what we’re supposed to do a bad name. To be honest, I have seen more negative than positive in the workplace. It irritates me to see people who are supposed to help others have no genuine concern about people. They literally make my skin crawl because they are the most judgmental, insensitive, and power hungry.

The longer I work in the mental health. The more I question if I should keep doing this. I’ve been burnt out before and I took a hiatus for over a year and a half just to find myself and take care of myself. I enjoy being able to help others. And when I did “talk” therapy, I loved being able to be a part of my clients’ healing process. Helping others comes naturally for me which is great. The challenge for me is that I don’t help myself as much as I should.

Self-care is one of those things I have to literally fight for. I have found out that companies do a poor job with supporting helping professionals. I have gained too much weight for my comfort and health as a result of work. My body has been suffering as a result of my high stress job. I had a conversation recently that those working in my field are over worked and under paid.

I recently transitioned to part time and do my assessments via the Internet. I have been transitioning to a vegan diet and I work out more. I also get more needed rest.

Has anyone been burnt out? What did you do to recover?

Thanks for the vent session!

Much love,


Here are a few photos on my journey as a crisis road warrior!




Cold Sore Treatment

I’ve been suffering from cold sore outbreaks since I was a little girl. Cold sores are very uncomfortable and unattractive. You’ve seen the commercials where the person with an outbreak is embarrassed and wants to hide. Well, in some ways, cold sores can make you feel that way. For me, I get them at the most inconvenient times. For instance, I’ll get them when I have a major event to attend or when meeting up with a friend that I haven’t seen in awhile. Cold sores can make you feel really self conscious.

For years I’ve tried, unsuccessfully, to find ways to treat and prevent them from occurring.  A few years ago, I thought that I had finally found a solution in the product Abreva. I found it at Walmart for about $17. The package said that if applied to the cold sore early on, it would prevent a full blown outbreak from occurring. It also promises that it works better than an other product that is on the market. The instructions for its application is to apply the product no more than five times a day. The issue I had with Abreva is that it never consistently worked. Sometimes it would and sometimes it wouldn’t. I didn’t want to continue paying that much for a product that is about the size of my pinky finger, and that work at random times.

So, about a month ago, I found another product at Walmart that claimed to treat cold sores. It was almost half the price of Abreva. I tried it an it works within a small period of time after applying it to the cold sore. It’s cheaper, only has to be applied once, and has worked consistently. So for anyone who maybe suffering from cold sore outbreaks I suggest that you try the cold sore treatment by OraLabs. You can find it at Walmart for $9.88. You only get 2 grams of product for that price, but it is well worth it. I’ve posted a picture below of the how it looks.



Self-Soothing: Relaxing and Painting


Good morning everyone!

One of my favorite things to is painting.  I normally  do abstract painting.  It’s very relaxing. The top pic art paintings I did for a company that worked for.


I have these paintings in my home.  These paintings are the first I did when I started painting again a few years ago.


I love leopard prints! I decided to try it out and it’s super easy.  I even paint my fingernails. 


Here’s a trio that I recently did. I just wanted share a hobby that I enjoy!

Blog Update: Life, Adjusting and Changing (The Extended Version)

Hey everyone!  I have been away from blogging over the past few weeks because I have been recovering from the flu and upper and lower respiratory infections.  I am excited about blogging but honestly I have not been able to do what I have desired to do so with blogging.  So please bear with me with this post.

I am super excited to let you know that my sister, Jessica, will be joining me on this blog.  So please show her some love!  We will sharing our experiences and projects we will be working on.  She has a lot of great things to share and I am super-duper excited about merging with Jess.  Be on the look out:-)



So, I just wanted to catch you up on what’s been going on with me. I have been feeling disconnected with blogging due to life circumstances.

A lot has been transpired over the past two years. I’ve experienced so many emotions–sadness, happiness, nervousness, excitement, uncertainty…I lost my grandmother in April  2013 which was absolutely devastating.  It was difficult and painful to see someone who I have share so many special moments with and known all of my life pass away right before my eyes. I stayed with her during her first health scare.  I was present when she stopped breathing and was pronounced dead with my family. She was lively, feisty, and most of all giving.  I knew her health was declining, but I never expected for her leave so soon.  I’m allowing myself to grieve.


In the summer of 2013, I moved  from west Tennessee to the Washington DC area then back to middle Tennessee that fall. I moved back to my hometown in West Tennessee back in the summer of 2014. The moving was exhausting…on so many levels.  I am finally still.

In April of 2014, I lost my dog.  She went blind on the day my grandmother died and experienced some major illnesses that involved me giving her fluids through an IV.  I did a lot to preserve her life and health.  She went lame two months due to health complications. She died year later on the day my grandmother was buried. This seems so unreal.  I am still grieving and I know that it will take time. I never knew that having a pet could change your life in such a positive way.


Another change that has occurred is that I am back in school working on my doctorate.  I finally took a leap to begin the process of getting my PhD which is dream of mine.  I had a lot of reservations about going back to school, but I knew it was time.  With support and much prayer, I have gotten A’s and one B in all of my classes.  Thank God!  It definitely hasn’t been easy working full-time as a therapist and having busy schedule.

I could go on and on about what’s been going on.

I took a break and I am still on a break from working as a therapist because I have had some really poor work environments.  I really enjoy counseling but I have worked with co-workers who are unhappy and negative.  It is hard to be apart of teams that do not genuinely care for people and who are unprofessional.  I did not go to school to become a marriage and family therapist to be in unproductive environments.

Back in December, Jessica’s dog passed away four days before Christmas.  I called Jazzy my niece. It’s crazy how my sister got our dogs eight months apart and they died eight months apart.  We miss her a lot because she helped us cope with my dog’s death and now she’s gone.


My body, mind, and spirit have suffered tremendously do to all of the changes in my life. With all of the major life changes that have occurred, I needed a little time to have some fun and enjoy myself.  So, I have been directing my energy towards thing that make me happy. That means I have been doing a lot of self-soothing.  I will be sharing with you all the things that are helping me.  I am getting refocused and re-centered.  We all go through major life changes.  It is so important that we take time to stay as balanced and healthy as we can.

I want to thank everyone who has subscribed, read, or liked something that I have shared on my blog.  I appreciate it!  Be on the look out for more great things!

With love,

Brandi 😉


Taking Time to Self-Soothe

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What’s up my beautiful people?  This week I was in training and the question came up about how do clients self-soothe.  Some therapist responded that some people use drugs, fighting, act out sexually, and so on.  Since a lot of the answers were unhealthy and depressing, I responded that some clients that I’ve encounter use music, art, and exercise to self soothe.   If we all took time to evaluate  how we self soothe (which simply means to relax or calm down), we all may have unhealthy as well healthy ways we soothe ourselves.

For me personally, I realized that there were times where I would not take time to relax and calm down.  I noticed that I would eat more fast food or not get enough rest.  And when I did not take time for myself, I felt it and saw it.  Over the years, I have learned and practice ways to self soothe.  It is so important to make time for yourself so that you can be your best at work, at home, in your relationships, and most importantly for yourself.  I would like to share some activities that do to self soothe.

1. Exercise or physical activity.  Yes, enjoy being active.  Sometimes I hit the gym and do some cardio.  I usually switch between the treadmill, bike, or elliptical to add some variety.  Sometimes I take short walks or use the stairs.  If I don’t feel like “working out,” I go to YouTube check out some videos and dance until I break out into a sweat.  I also like zumba and other activities.

2. Art. I find that art is very relaxing.  A few years ago, I got into painting canvas with acrylic paint.  I love it.  I also enjoy sewing and knitting.

3. Music.  Music is truly a form of therapy.  It is able to evoke emotions and it truly affects your soul.  I don’t know if you ever heard a song about heartbreak or sadness…you feel it or it reminds you of your personal experiences.  I find that jazz with the music only is relaxing.  Also, I listen to music that is inspirational and up lifting.

4. Writing.  I find that writing my thoughts and feelings helps me to release them.  There are instances where I don’t want to talk about something so I write it out. I write poems, stories, and songs.  It just depends on whats going on in my life.  There have been times where I may have had to deal with someone who may have offended me or I had a disagreement with. I actually have written how about the experience…feelings, thoughts, and vent.  This helps me process the situation.  After I write about it, it helps to effectively communicate with that individual when I encounter them.

5.Other things.  This list could go on.  So, here are some other things that I like to do to self soothe: read, take hot baths (with my oils, salts, and scrubs), laugh (I have invested in comedy dvds and I have learned to find humor in the not so humorous thing;-) It helps), pampering myself (painting my nails, doing my hair, shopping, etc.), BREATHE (it works), being around positive and supportive people who I can talk to, and most importantly my faith in God truly sustains me!

Enjoy and don’t forget to spend more time self soothing and discovering new ways to self-soothe! Make it simple and enjoyable!