Hello, beautiful people and Happy New Year!
I can’t believe it’s 2018 already. To be completely honest, I am glad that 2017 is over. What a year? I literally isolated myself, especially from social media, as much as possible to recuperate from the highs and mostly lows of a year that literally has left me using punctuation marks to describe my life.
If you’ve ever watched the movie Monster-in-Law with Jennifer Lopez and Jane Fonda, there’s a scene where the ladies meet for the first time and chat over tea. During the conversation, Jane Fonda’s character reaches for the question mark necklace around J Lo’s neck and ask, “Why the question mark?”. Jennifer responds candidly and freely with a bright smile “Oooh, ’cause I just don’t know?” ended with a carefree laugh. I swear this is one of my favorite scenes of the movie. I love Jennifer’s character, Charlie, and I connect with her so much. She had different jobs and ventures going on at the same time while trying makes sense of it all and embracing the changes as they come. Charlie went to the beat of her own drum without any apologies.
Life is full of situations and experiences that are interesting, frustrating, challenging, fun, exhilarating, along with so many other adjectives. Last year, I struggled with the not knowing and trying to figure it out. I felt a lot of internal and external conflict because I realized that I lost myself. I lost “beating the rhythm to my own drum.” I missed the relationship I had with myself. I stopped feeding my soul and continued taking on obligations that were depleting me. I felt like I was suffocating and my body and spirit were suffering because of my unhappiness and discouragement.
I stopped making my happiness and peace the priority. So I decided before I go into to 2018, I need to make a change. THERAPY. If you’re new to my blog, I am a marriage and family therapist, and I am a believer and supporter of psychotherapy. There’s this negative stigma associated with counseling and therapy, but there are really great therapists out here who know what they are doing and genuinely care. Don’t get me wrong, there are some people out there who should not be practicing. But there are doctors, hairstylists, teachers, spiritual advisors and so on who are really whack yet they are still working. If someone sucks at what they do find someone who knows what they are doing.
Okay, I’m off my therapy soapbox. Anyway, therapy has been great, challenging, and needed. I actually feel like I can breathe again. I am looking forward to getting back to Brandi. I must say that it feels great getting back to the blog as well. I have missed being here and thanks to you who are still hanging out with me!
I look forward to blogging with you this 2018.