Burnout & Venting

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Good day, beautiful people!

I really miss blogging. And I want to take a moment to be transparent and vent. My life as a crisis counselor has pretty much dominated my life.  Over the past few months, there has been a spike in the number of children going into crisis.  I literally feel pushed to the max.  Outside of the piles of paperwork and the countless hours of driving to a crisis, I have the responsibility of making serious decisions about what is  best course of action to help the child and their family.

It’s difficult explain to parents that their child needs to go to a psychiatric hospital to be evaluated. I hear and see so many heartbreaking and disturbing things that I have nightmares about them. I have encountered negative and sometimes unethical helping professionals who give those of us who do what we’re supposed to do a bad name. To be honest, I have seen more negative than positive in the workplace. It irritates me to see people who are supposed to help others have no genuine concern about people. They literally make my skin crawl because they are the most judgmental, insensitive, and power hungry.

The longer I work in the mental health. The more I question if I should keep doing this. I’ve been burnt out before and I took a hiatus for over a year and a half just to find myself and take care of myself. I enjoy being able to help others. And when I did “talk” therapy, I loved being able to be a part of my clients’ healing process. Helping others comes naturally for me which is great. The challenge for me is that I don’t help myself as much as I should.

Self-care is one of those things I have to literally fight for. I have found out that companies do a poor job with supporting helping professionals. I have gained too much weight for my comfort and health as a result of work. My body has been suffering as a result of my high stress job. I had a conversation recently that those working in my field are over worked and under paid.

I recently transitioned to part time and do my assessments via the Internet. I have been transitioning to a vegan diet and I work out more. I also get more needed rest.

Has anyone been burnt out? What did you do to recover?

Thanks for the vent session!

Much love,

Brandi

Here are a few photos on my journey as a crisis road warrior!

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Vision Board: Getting Re-Centered and Refocused

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Hey Everyone!
I’m at a place in my life where I am getting re-centered and refocused on my desires and goals for myself. I am taking time to allow myself to be restored and refreshed. I have a tendency to be super hard on myself and I have been guilty of pushing myself to the limit. I think that it is okay to have drive and determination but it is not healthy when you over do it.

So, I’m taking it easy as much as possible and focusing on my life and my purpose. I surround myself with things and images that remind me of my passions, desires, and goals. I believe visualizing where you want to be and what you want to be provides with some direction and inspiration. It has been very helpful in my life. I love writing down the things I desire and having them visual. It has been amazing.

I created a vision board, well more like three about those things that I expect to see manifested in my life. If you’ve never heard of a vision board, I will explain it. It kind of like a picture collage that has pictures of your desires, dreams and goals. It can be elaborate or simple. It’s your vision. You can make it using poster board or electronically like the ones I created. I made my vision boards using my piccollage app. It’s free and easy to use. I downloaded pictures from the internet and create boards for my life.

Here’s one for my personal wellbeing:

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Love Relationship:

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Career

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These are my screen savers. I bought some poster board to create a vision board in my home. I will be cutting pictures from my magazines. My sister with also be doing one. This is great project to do when you feel stuck or are ready for a change. This also great for children and teens. I will do follow up post about my vision board. I encourage you to try it and don’t be fearful of thinking big. It’s yours life;-)

Sending much positivity,
Brandi

Style Inspiration: Working Woman

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 What’s up everyone?  I wanted to share this look I created.  This is something I would wear to work.  It’s a twist to business casual.  I rarely wear heels to work (I rarely wear heels anymore…smh) because of comfort and my constant moving around.  I invested in some cute flats that I can wear at work or just for day-to-day wear.  I normally wear earrings and bracelets all the time and rings often.  I think this look is fun and colorful.  When I’m interacting with people, I tend to wear colors because I noticed that it brightens moods and channels good energy.

Blog Update: Life, Adjusting and Changing (The Extended Version)

Hey everyone!  I have been away from blogging over the past few weeks because I have been recovering from the flu and upper and lower respiratory infections.  I am excited about blogging but honestly I have not been able to do what I have desired to do so with blogging.  So please bear with me with this post.

I am super excited to let you know that my sister, Jessica, will be joining me on this blog.  So please show her some love!  We will sharing our experiences and projects we will be working on.  She has a lot of great things to share and I am super-duper excited about merging with Jess.  Be on the look out:-)

 

 

So, I just wanted to catch you up on what’s been going on with me. I have been feeling disconnected with blogging due to life circumstances.

A lot has been transpired over the past two years. I’ve experienced so many emotions–sadness, happiness, nervousness, excitement, uncertainty…I lost my grandmother in April  2013 which was absolutely devastating.  It was difficult and painful to see someone who I have share so many special moments with and known all of my life pass away right before my eyes. I stayed with her during her first health scare.  I was present when she stopped breathing and was pronounced dead with my family. She was lively, feisty, and most of all giving.  I knew her health was declining, but I never expected for her leave so soon.  I’m allowing myself to grieve.

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In the summer of 2013, I moved  from west Tennessee to the Washington DC area then back to middle Tennessee that fall. I moved back to my hometown in West Tennessee back in the summer of 2014. The moving was exhausting…on so many levels.  I am finally still.

In April of 2014, I lost my dog.  She went blind on the day my grandmother died and experienced some major illnesses that involved me giving her fluids through an IV.  I did a lot to preserve her life and health.  She went lame two months due to health complications. She died year later on the day my grandmother was buried. This seems so unreal.  I am still grieving and I know that it will take time. I never knew that having a pet could change your life in such a positive way.

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Another change that has occurred is that I am back in school working on my doctorate.  I finally took a leap to begin the process of getting my PhD which is dream of mine.  I had a lot of reservations about going back to school, but I knew it was time.  With support and much prayer, I have gotten A’s and one B in all of my classes.  Thank God!  It definitely hasn’t been easy working full-time as a therapist and having busy schedule.

I could go on and on about what’s been going on.

I took a break and I am still on a break from working as a therapist because I have had some really poor work environments.  I really enjoy counseling but I have worked with co-workers who are unhappy and negative.  It is hard to be apart of teams that do not genuinely care for people and who are unprofessional.  I did not go to school to become a marriage and family therapist to be in unproductive environments.

Back in December, Jessica’s dog passed away four days before Christmas.  I called Jazzy my niece. It’s crazy how my sister got our dogs eight months apart and they died eight months apart.  We miss her a lot because she helped us cope with my dog’s death and now she’s gone.

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My body, mind, and spirit have suffered tremendously do to all of the changes in my life. With all of the major life changes that have occurred, I needed a little time to have some fun and enjoy myself.  So, I have been directing my energy towards thing that make me happy. That means I have been doing a lot of self-soothing.  I will be sharing with you all the things that are helping me.  I am getting refocused and re-centered.  We all go through major life changes.  It is so important that we take time to stay as balanced and healthy as we can.

I want to thank everyone who has subscribed, read, or liked something that I have shared on my blog.  I appreciate it!  Be on the look out for more great things!

With love,

Brandi 😉